It’s something that’s always heralded as noble, desirable and admirable. In which, if done, we will be regarded as a person of just and character. We know going above and beyond helps us in so many ways, but why is it hard to be consistent or to even start?
Is it because of the pressure and expectations of going above and beyond? The upkeep and commitment will eventually wear us out. Not only that, the expectations of others forces us to their will and beckoning if we’re not careful. To be subjected by other people’s expectations and demands isn’t a favorable situation to be in and explains why not too many people are drawn to doing more. But the number one thing that holds us back is effort.
Effort requires us to invest energy, time, and most importantly, thoughtfulness. It’s not easy to think of others before us. There’s an urge to do what’s best for us or do something that benefits us more than the other person. There was a study on Harvard students asking them to choose between a $150k salary but their peers made $200k or $100k salary and their peers make $80k. The overwhelming majority picked $100k simply because they didn’t want their peers making more then them. If we step back, we can clearly see they took a lower salary just to win that "social-status” game.
I believe this is precisely why we need to practice going above and beyond. To practice thoughtfulness and allow ourselves to be molded into that person that’s willing to do more for others. With all of the time and effort you’ve put in, sometimes you’ll be put in difficult situations. This is the wrong type of thinking. You do it because you want to. You’re not simply doing everything and you have the right to turn things down if you want. Thoughtfulness allows us to be honest. Honesty gives us the opportunity for refusal and show to others that you are humble enough to know when you can’t do a certain thing, knowing you’ll risk quality.
As you continue to go above and beyond, you will build a positive reputation. This will reward you many times over for the effort you put in. You’ll be surrounded by the right people that want to associate themselves with a person like you, base on reputation. Just a warning to not fall into the trap of doing things just to get something back. Remember that thoughtfulness comes from the willingness to help, not to gain.
I truly believe the most important thing that comes out of going above and beyond is simply you get to help someone. Whether or not they appreciate it, we should do it because we have the opportunity to do so. Perhaps we can inspire others to do the same, but if we can make someone’s day, why not do so? After all, the world needs more of that.